As a teenager, every time we had a disagreement, which we used to have quite frequently, my mom used to say, "some day you will understand, when you will be a mom yourself " -- that comment always made me furious.
Now, after all these years, I can see how right she was. As a mom of two teenagers, I can see how tough it is to guide or assist someone who is searching for himself or herself and not ready to seek assistance at all and yet you have to intervene at times because you do care. The biggest challenge is -- how and when to intervene!
Motherhood, as beautiful as it sounds, is a one way journey, filled with new challenges with every step, every day and every moment, and yet these are moments of a mother's life with her beloved kids, the priceless time that a mother wants to cherish to the fullest.
The path is not smooth.
Pregnancy, no matter if one loves or hates it, brings a radical change that transforms a woman to a mother. Then come the new lives, the mother and the baby. If we call the early days of motherhood tough, then the later days are tougher.
Babies and kids always come with all sorts of issues, more related to simple human need and nature. As kids grow older, the complexity and need arrives from all different sides: physical, psychological, social etc. Each of these dimensions is again a combination of many other elements of different magnitude and needs.
A growing human being needs to learn how to balance and act and fulfill all these needs in a dignified manner. On the other hand, the growing mom has to learn and understand the person that is growing and developing in front of her every day, respect that person, ensure the bonding is there to provide the support as needed, and make the time enjoyable for both ends, which is the core of these beautiful relationships. It is not an easy task at either end.
Every mom wholeheartedly wants to see her child grow and flourish as a young adult who is wise, responsible and a happy person in society. It is the wild human nature and complexity that makes the journey uncertain at times. Whatever the challenge may be, it is the parent or mom who needs to be the one standing there and watching consistently like a morning star with the hope and faith that her sailor will navigate wisely.
Love this quote:
"Nobody ever becomes an expert parent. But I think good parenting is about consistency. It's about being there at big moments, but it's also just the consistency of decision making. And it's routine." - Sebastian Coe
Another terrific quote:
"Raising children uses every bit of your being - your heart, your time, your patience, your foresight, your intuition to protect them, and you have to use all of this while trying to figure out how to discipline them." - Nicole Ari Parker